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If you are working more than 6 hours a day, you may be in the wrong job!  – Mental Health: Part 2

If you are working more than 6 hours a day, you may be in the wrong job! – Mental Health: Part 2

Do you feel trapped in your cubicle? Do you feel like nothing is going to change? Do you feel like you're stuck, depressed and hopeless? You're not alone.

In this episode, we discuss how tech workers just like you can learn to rise above and thrive!

*Note*  After recording this video I made the decision to transition membership programs to coaching; however if there is enough interest in re-launching the Citrix Professionals membership program (exploring paths to success in Citrix) I'd appreciate your comments. For up to date information head to https://ctxpro.com/membership

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Video Highlights

Here are a few quotes we tramscrobed from DJ during the video. Each link will take you to that point in the YouTube video if you need a point of reference.

 01:48: People talk about “work life balance” and I used to like that phrase. I'm starting to find that I'm not so sure that when I talk about work life balance that meshes with other people's definition of it. Sometimes I think people are thinking in terms of work life balance being related to time. I don't think that's healthy. I think if you are obsessed with the time you spend in one place or another, that can be pretty seriously unhealthy is as far as your time spent, that sort of thing.

04:32: The honest truth is, if you are in a position where your tasks, whatever that are important to do for the day, are taking you more than six hours a day, you have a problem! I think the challenge is, that is not reality. That you are actually in a place where the reality, is that you're thinking, you're the only one that can do it or you're thinking you're the only one that's being dependent on, that becomes your reality even if it wasn't previously true.

06:27My challenge to you is to only work for six hours of the day and observe the results. Did things fall apart? Was the world coming crashing down around you? My guess is that what will happen is that you will find that people get by or you'll find that you're doing a lot of tasks that are not necessary beyond what needs to be done to really do it. In other words, your priorities might be a little bit off if you can do a six hour work day and things are falling apart.

08:18If you can't condense your work into a six hour portion of your day, your career is going nowhere. That means that you are not focused on growing. You are focused on just doing. More importantly, you're not focused on why, you're focused on what.

10:40The point is, sometimes we fill our workday up with things that are not really important or just not very effective with what we're doing. That can actually lead to a mental health problem. And that is mostly in regards to fatigue, but there's a sense of hopelessness that you find with that. And that is another cause of depression.

11:50The reality is you feel, I hear this all the time, I have to go to work. I have to do this. I have to do it. The reality is you don't have to. The reality is you are making a choice every time you go to work and you have to recognize that, otherwise, you are giving that power to someone else and holding yourself basically hostage to somebody who's not trying to hold you hostage.

12:15In terms of mental health, you have to realize that you are making a choice and own that choice.

13:36You will not rise to the occasion. You will only rise to your level of preparedness.

14:27: The thing is, you have to find a way to limit your time and boost your productivity by limiting distractions.

15:06: Know why you are working. That is super important. If you don't have a good motivating factor that is driven by something that is real, then you will have nothing but problems in life.

15:49If it's not making you happy anymore, if it's not fulfilling a greater purpose in your life, then move on.

20:04: When your first impulse in the morning is to check your email, something's wrong.

20:43: If you can, you really need to make it so that you leave at a certain time, and that's not negotiable, where you're done for the day and that's your thing.

22:18: Multitasking is not entirely healthy.

23:18: If you can, find a hobby that you enjoy getting better at, that actually helps your mental state quite a bit.

23:45: Schedule times where you're not scheduling time. In other words, you want to actually have blocks off on your schedule to do things that are unstructured.

25:00: What gets scheduled, gets done. If you don't schedule time for yourself, it won't get done.

27:16: If something's not building you up, consider dumping it.

29:39If you can invest in one thing this year, invest in yourself. Invest in your own skill sets.

33:44: Maintaining mental health takes discipline. It is not something where you can just simply snap your fingers and, you know, all of your problems go away.

34:08: Work equals meaningful effort.

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If you are working more than 6 hours a day, you may be in the wrong job!  – Mental Health: Part 2

Citrix Coach In a Car: Mental Health – Part 1

This week we're tackling something not talked often enough in Tech – Mental Health. The more travel, consulting and coaching I do the more I realize how underserved this topic really is.

So I decided to split this into 2 longer episodes in the hope you will be positively impacted by them! I'm being more vulnerable than I normally am here, even telling you about my experiences in getting qualified counseling help and how that changed my life. If you are in a bad spot – seek the guidance of a trained professional.

That said If you are interested in hiring me as your Career and Life Success Coach (Citrix or otherwise) please visit http://CitrixCoach.com to learn more!

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Video Highlights

 

03:28: When it comes to mental health, that's a big part of what is missed, especially in the technology world.

03:58: The only way that people are going to change is if they are offended out of their current mode.

04:05: If I say something to you that is offending you, then I would encourage you to not look towards me but look towards yourself and say, okay, what, what about that offended me?

04:25: [being offended] Was that really against me personally or is it something, where there's a mirror, pointed back at you and you don't like it, that sort of thing.

05:09: [deep-seated issues] What I'm talking about is either unresolved things from your past or current circumstances that have grown to the point where they've not been dealt with for so long that they are out of control basically.

05:28: In the IT world what I find is that the people that are attracted to that line of work tend to be those that are not necessarily good at communicating their feelings right.

08:56: [coping mechanisms] There are some that are just, I gotta be honest, more destructive than others. Going on occasionally getting, you know, a little drunk is one thing, but, being drunk all the time or escaping any kind of, what you might call drama, by going off and drinking is really not healthy.

09:23: If you're self-medicating, then you really need to look into why you're doing that and be honest with yourself and say, am I doing this because I feel so overwhelmed that I can't feel like I can function any other way?

09:49: In most cases, the hardest thing to do is to get help because you have to face the very thing that puts you into that situation in the first place.

10:39: Deep down we all recognize the trajectory that we're on. If we are in a space where we are self-medicating and using substances to get by, we know where that road goes, we know where that's heading. You really need to get off of it.

13:28The other thing, a lot of people don't necessarily turn to substances or things like that, but they basically turn to this: At one point in my life I kind of called it like the Batman syndrome kind of thing where everybody's against you, you're their hero, but everybody's against you. d I'm not sure I totally like that analogy, but that is kind of what the mentality gets into. You get to this mode where you are just so used to not being thanked for what you do and not feeling like it's going anywhere, even though you put effort towards it or what you perceive as an effort towards it.

14:25: The other part about that is that you just can't see anything other than the pain of working, but you still are, obsessed is the wrong word; it's similar where you are basically work addicted.

15:16: When you are constantly stretched beyond what you can handle and you feel like that is your new norm; if you don't get to that point, you're not working hard enough. So you get to that point of being stretched and then you find you need to go further because you've set up all these things, a lot of times unconsciously, that make everyone dependent on you.

16:34: When you specifically push somebody out of your way and do the work for them just because you're irritated by them not knowing what you know, you don't feel better, you feel worse.

18:45: There's a lot of things about depression that are misunderstood. First off, almost everyone deals with depression at some point, at some level in their lives.

19:25: Depression is more or less a sense of a lack of energy, basically is the best way to describe it, where you just don't feel you can achieve anything. You can't even get out of bed, that can be a challenge.

19:57: Depression, as far as clinical depression goes, there has to be either a pattern or a length of time where that has not lifted.

20:38: I want to give you some pointers. First of all, like I just said, get help.

22:40: What I figured out that it was, with the help of this counselor, was that it wasn't necessarily my circumstances that were the problem. It was something, a kind of perspective and willingness that let that circumstance control my life.

24:13: A psychologist is somebody who is largely study-based and a psychiatrist is somebody who can actually perform therapy.

25:13: [stinkin thinkin] I have trained myself to know when that's happening, to stop and take control of that and say, is this real?

26:41: When it comes to mental health, interestingly enough, the power of the mind over the body actually has an effect physically on the body.

28:28: [idea mania] That's something that in IT, we face every now and then, where we hear something and we get excited about it and we want to do it. We get it about maybe halfway done and then the energy runs out and we just don't really finish it. We get distracted and go on something else. That's more normal than a lot of people realize.

29:58: If you want to be successful, you need to set yourself up with triggers and activation triggers, as one of my influencers, Michael Hyatt, will call them. It's where you have an event in your day or your week or whatever, that activates another task or activates something that you can stay consistent with. That's a way to get past that kind of up and down cycle where you're basing what you're working on your energy and you make what you're working on based on your habits.

32:16: If you have kids, make that a priority. We've had too many years of people being more obsessed with success than with their family.

 

 

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How Do I Become a CTA?

How Do I Become a CTA?

If you have a goal of being recognized as one of Citrix's CTAs (Citrix Technology Advocates) I have some specific advice for you to consider in this very first episode of Citrix Coach in a Car (getting coffee … or going to the chiropractor).

Continue the Conversation by ditching FB and joining our private social network for Citrix Heroes: https://community.citrixhero.com

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(note – DJ left the CTA program in 2020 to pursue additional interests but if you'd like to talk to him about how to achieve your goals find the contact form at the bottom of this article to schedule a time to do so)

Video Highlights

01:32: With the CTA program and the Citrix technology advocates, the goal really is to serve the community

01:47: What we're looking for is how much of a community participant you are. In other words, how much time you spend in the community as a whole, whether that be in Citrix user group meetings, whether you're leading those or helping out with those, are you active on the forums? Are you somebody who is contributing to CGC website, that sort of thing? What involvement do you have; whether it's your independent blog or you're contributing to other people's blogs.

01:47: What we're looking for is how much of a community participant you are. In other words, how much time you spend in the community as a whole, whether that be in Citrix user group meetings, whether you're leading those or helping out with those, are you active on the forums? Are you somebody who is contributing to CGC website, that sort of thing? What involvement do you have; whether it's your independent blog or you're contributing to other people's blogs.

03:01: To me add value means that you have made someone else's life improve, even if it's just a little bit.

03:14: A lot of people can be consuming content, other people can be creating content, and if you are in the add value space, usually you are trying to create content, that is, helping people with either a problem, or just sometimes it's brightening their day. 

03:32: [adding value] Other times it is, sharing something you've learned in the hope that it'll help someone else along the way.

03:55: Being a good member of the community is trying to build up rather than tear down.

04:14: We are looking for people that are very open and honest and are very much about the technology and how they can help people and makes the world a better place.

01:32With the CTA program and the Citrix technology advocates, the goal really is to serve the community

05:20: What we're really looking at for that program is how much you are actually involved in the community and how much value you're adding to other people's lives as a part of that and from Citrix's perspective.

05:40: Give good use cases for the technology that makes sense in the real world and that aren't just prompted by a salesperson or, or something along those lines.

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What To Do With Your Time During Coronavirus

What To Do With Your Time During Coronavirus

Who would have thought that all that practice helping people work from home would be so crucial to your company? So, now you're spending a lot more time at home. So… what to do with your time? In this special edition of Citrix Coach in a Car Getting Coffee… or going to the chiropractor, DJ gives some tips on how to manage your time!

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Video Highlights

01:21: You will not rise to the occasion. You will only rise to your level of preparedness.
02:31: Even with the right things we can make do with less, and what that means is that we
can actually make some sacrices in user experience.
04:20: There's a couple of things that I wanted to recommend to you. One is, if you're not
already feeling prepared, get prepared. The other is to educate yourself.
10:28: You need to give yourself that time. Don't think that you will be able to just ignore it.
That's not how our minds work. That's not how we are built. We just are not built for
isolation as much as we think we are.
10:48: Even the most introverted people in the world still and ways to become connected to
others. We are social creatures. And so allocate time for that, along with work, along with
everything else. Allocate time to do that. But, here's the key: don't let yourself exceed that
time.
11:47: Write down goals for yourself.
12:09: You need to have some structure and you need to have some priorities set.
12:29: Add value right now.
13:15: Be the person who is showing up. Be the person who is making a difference in people's
lives. Connect with that. Really, really get into thinking about what it is you're doing
and how that's impacting others, because it is. Along with that, give yourself some time to
learn and grow. Give yourself some time to expand your knowledge
15:27: [goals] Write these things down during this time when you're at home because there
will be distractions
15:41: You make a plan, stick to it, but give yourself grace with these kinds of things. Don't be
unrealistic about what we're going to do.
16:01: Don't push yourself beyond what you can handle. But definitely celebrate your wins,
make sure you're spending some time learning new processesand new things. Absolutely give
yourself grace for things you want to get or you feel like you need to do as far as
social interaction when you're kind of cooped up at home. And then, like I said, make a plan
and stick to it.

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